To work or not to work?


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My own career took me from London to New York on my first expat assignment in 1989. Fast forward nine years and my soon-to-be husband and I managed (after a 15 month separation and a with the help of a sympathetic boss) to move to Hong Kong and keep both of our careers moving in the right direction. However, a baby, a new boss and one more move made it difficult for me to maintain my career. Since then, we’ve made three additional moves and had another child and my career in investment banking is a distant memory. Despite having no visa restrictions in two out of those three countries, I chose not to seek paid employment.   Though I have no desire to return to my investment banking, I have often missed the fulfilment and sense of identity that come with having a career. Why make the choice not to work? Uncertainty over how long my husband’s assignment might last, the complexity of our household logistics given my husband’s travel schedule, childcare resources which would not fill in all the gaps, lack of contacts in the countries I’ve lived in and the time required with each move to set up a household and get our children settled into school are just some of the reasons that, until I started my own business two years ago, my career remained on ice.

What decision did you make about working/maintaining your career when you moved overseas?

What factors drove your decision to work or not?

How has the decision impacted your satisfaction with your life?

These are all questions that Louise Wiles, founder of Success Abroad Coaching and I are asking in our new survey “Career Choice and the Accompanying Partner”. By asking these questions we are attempting to shed light on the issues that influence the choice to work or not and to better understand the implications of that choice on an accompanying partner’s well-being. We hope that our findings will help families to make more informed decisions about expatriate assignments and that they will further the dialogue on how accompanying partners are supported in a relocation.

If you’re an accompanying partner currently on assignment and would like to share your experience, please click here to complete the survey. It shouldn’t take more than 15 minutes to complete. If you can spare another minute or two of your time, we’d appreciate if you’d forward it on to all of your expat friends. As a thank you from us, every participant will have the opportunity to be entered into a prize draw.

Watch this space for news of our findings.

The Girl Effect – What can you do?

Mea Culpa!!  I have committed the cardinal sin of blogging and have not posted content in quite some time.  So I have to thank Tara Sophia Mohr whose Girl Effect Blogging Campaign has blown away my summer inertia and inspired me to start writing again. Having started, I am committing to a more regular schedule (once a week) for writing about issues which affect us as expats and accompanying partners. Watch this space!

Now onto the main purpose of this post – The Girl Effect. As expats, we are often closer than we know to the sharp end of the injustices that girls experience on a daily basis.  Although, we and our daughters may not experience those injustices directly, they are often happening around us.  Sometimes our experience of living in different cultures and countries simply raises our awareness and makes it a little harder to ignore some of those inequalities.

As accompanying partners, we often find ourselves unable to work.  Although we are privileged beyond the wildest dreams of the people in whose communities we live, many of us struggle with the sudden loss of fulfillment that we experienced from careers or hobbies in our home countries.   I’ve written before about my involvement with the Josephine Charles Foundation while I lived in Shanghai.  While some of the jobs that I did for the foundation were by no means glamourous or intellectually demanding (sorting donated clothing to be sent to children and adults in the remotest areas of Sichuan province springs to mind), I experienced a deep sense of satisfaction doing something which made an immediate and measurable difference to the families and particularly the girls in those communities.  The work that I did is not for everyone, but there are many opportunities to get involved with organisations which help the communities we live in and the girls around us.  If you are searching for a new sense of purpose in your expat life and have time and skills on your hands, I urge you to consider volunteering some of your time and skills to help an organisation which helps girls.  If you’re not familiar with the Girl Effect and their campaign to spread the compelling statistics for investing in girls, check out the video below:

Personal fulfillment and a better world – what’s not to like about that?

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